wanting and not wanting at the same time
a comic for asexual awareness week
bringing this back today for the start of pride month. still overwhelmed by how well this comic went down and with how many people relate. it’s easy to think aro-ace people are all totally accepting of their identities and really proud of who they are. i guess on websites like this you see a lot of people proudly putting their identity in their bio, a flag in their profile picture.
in fact i think a lot of aro-ace people really hate that part of themselves, hide it, and struggle for a long time to ‘accept’ who they are and feel any sense of ‘pride’. that’s the feeling i wanted to capture here. the disappointment, the loneliness, upon realising that you can’t feel what is such a wonderful thing. the embarrassment of not being ‘normal’, of being some random sexuality that nobody irl has heard of, and letting down those around you because you can’t be who they want you to be. how desperately you want to change, how desperately you want to feel. but you just can’t.
i know not all aro-ace people feel like this. i know lots of aro and/or ace people feel able to be in relationships, to feel closeness and have partners in other ways. but i think it’s important to be aware that some aro-ace people do feel like this.
the comments on this comic have mostly been great but a few have been very frustrating. a comment it got a lot was along the lines of ‘aw!! you don’t need to have sex to be in a relationship!’. you completely missed the point, hah. this is not a comic about sex. it’s about a lack of feeling, the lack of something beautiful other people seem to have. another comment that popped up a few times was ‘maybe she’s a lesbian’. well maybe lesbians and aro/ace girls have more in common than people think - maybe they both often struggle to accept that they feel no attraction to men, even though society has conditioned them to do so, sometimes spending years trying to force themselves to like men in that way, when they just can’t.
this comic is called ‘wanting and not wanting at the same time’ because she wants to love. but when it comes down to the reality, she can’t fulfil the requirements of that. she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet. a sort of catch 22, i guess.
hope that makes sense. thanks for listening, and have a lovely pride month ❤️
This.
OMG look at these shoes!!
Official Yugi and Seto model shoes (cool combination with the released bags and clocks XD)
source: http://natalie.mu/comic/gallery/show/news_id/233573/image_id/779196
dont…….
I don’t know what to say.
This is me running away from adult responsibilities.
this is legendary
We call everything on the ice “love”.
bloom
been obsessed with the idea of drawing them with flower crowns ever since seeing young viktor with one, this SHOW ////
Hope.
They truly made a history.
THE ULTIMATE MCHANZO GIVEAWAY
For those of you who follows us, you might recall that we’ve hinted at a massive giveaway that’s been in the works for a few months now. Some of you probably thought this was never going to happen, that we were just yanking on your chain for some follows, but alas! Now is the time for us to announce our enormous giveaway, one we hope makes all of you very excited/happy/every other awesome emotion out there! Let’s break it down real quick–
RULES:
- Starts October 25 and ends November 25
- International giveaway, which means anyone can enter
- You don’t have to be following, because if we made people follow, they’d probably just unfollow after the giveaway ends (i.e. no point to it)
- You can fill out the form every day, but only once per day
- You can reblog this post as often as you like, but only one reblog is necessary (i.e. you don’t have to reblog every time you fill out the form)
- Reblogs/likes don’t count as an entry
HOW TO ENTER:
- Reblog this post (the one you’re reading this very second) at least once
FIRST PLACE PRIZES:
- Copy of “Overwatch: Origins Edition” (PC or Console) or Official Overwatch Merch (of equal or lesser value to the game)
- McCree ‘It’s High Noon’ Sticker, Hanzo ‘Marked by the Dragon’ Sticker, and McCre ‘McBAMF’ Print – Donated by @kichisu [Their Shop]
- McCree & Billy the Kitten Sticker, McCree & Hanzo Serape Sticker, and McCree & Hanzo Boozy Sticker+Keychain – Donated by @jamiekinosian [Their Shop]
- McCree’s Deadeye Symbol Patch (Iron-On), Hanzo’s Dragonstrike Symbol Patch (Iron-On), Hanzo Small Print, and McCree Small Print – Donated by @lessamao [Their Shop]
- McHanzo Charm – Donated by @stupah [Their Shop]
- Hanzo & McCree Keychain and Hanzo ‘Dragons’ Print – Donated by @sheepskin [Their Shop]
- Hanzo ‘Lone Wolf’ Charm, McCree ‘Americcree’ Charm, Hanzo ‘Okami’ Mini-Print, and Deadlock McCree Mini-Print – Donated by @gachichubbs [Their Shop]
- Hanzo and McCree-Inspired Soaps – Donated by @galviron [No Shop; Giveaway Exclusive]
SECOND PLACE PRIZES:
- McCree ‘It’s High Noon’ Sticker and Hanzo ‘Marked by the Dragon’ Sticker – Donated by @kichisu [Their Shop]
- McCree’s Deadeye Symbol Patch (Iron-On) and Hanzo’s Dragonstrike Symbol Patch (Iron-On) – Donated by @lessamao [Their Shop]
- McHanzo Charm – Donated by @stupah [Their Shop]
- Hanzo & McCree Keychain – Donated by @sheepskin [Their Shop]
- Hanzo and McCree-Inspired Soaps – Donated by @galviron [No Shop; Giveaway Exclusive]
What’s really cool about this giveaway is that some of these items are either sold out or not yet on sale (in the artists’ shops), so you guys have the chance to win some exclusive stuff! And even if you don’t win the giveaway, the majority of these items are still in-stock on the shops we linked above and you can buy all this awesome merch for yourselves!
What we hope to achieve by throwing this giveaway is a lil’ more positivity spread throughout the community. We want to make people happy to be part of the McHanzo side of the fandom, to show others out there that we’re a pretty great group of people, and give a couple people some cool gifts!